Losing a baby is devastating
It doesn’t matter how many weeks into your pregnancy you are when it happens; your baby was yours, it was the beginning of a new life for you and your partner and whatever your feeling right now matters.
I believe as soon as your egg meets your partner’s sperm and conception has taken place you have a baby. The number of weeks pregnant you are doesn’t matter, it’s just a number. The feelings you have for your baby are what matters.
As soon as you know you are pregnant a part of you is creating the life you are going to lead with that new baby woven into the story.
When you hear the news that there is no heartbeat or you see or feel blood in your knickers that story changes. You crash headlong into your worst nightmare and the future your mind has been busily creating grind to a halt.
Initially you go through the motions, you may not even cry, you’re in shock.
Then the practicalities kick in. Doctors talk of procedures, your options, and your given choices about what to do next. Choices that you NEVER wanted to have to make.
And then the practicalities are all over.
And you’re left with an empty space, where your baby used to be. Where the life you were going to lead with this baby used to be.
Sometimes you can do a really good job of getting on with things, picking yourself up, drying your tears and re-joining life, genuinely thinking you are doing ok.
But then the question of trying again is asked, and a part of you recoils in horror. Your head says of course I want to try again but your heart, your inner self is terrified of it happening again.
And that’s ok. Of course that part of you is scared.
With my support, backed up by years of experience working with grief, loss and trauma you can feel differently.
In one-to one sessions, face to face, or via skype, we combine support of your physical body with your emotional self.
We will work through your grief and how you feel so you are in the best possible place, emotionally and physically, to make choices about conceiving another baby.
I would love to help you get to that place.
If you would like to explore working with me the first and most important step is our initial chat.
I like to call this our cup of tea and cake session.
We put the virtual kettle on, pull up a chair and have a chat, usually over skype or the telephone. During our time together I will ask you a LOT of questions so I can get a really good picture of where you’re at.
You can ask me as many questions as you like (I don’t promise to have all the answers but I will do my best!) and in case you forget some you can always email me afterwards.
I will then tell you if I think I can help you. If I don’t feel my skill set or approach will fit your needs I will let you know. And if you decide I’m not for you or it’s not the right time that’s ok too.
If you feel this is right for you, email me to book in for your cup of tea and cake session by clicking the button below.